Tough Love

Whew you guys!!! This morning was rough! Being a parent is hard sometimes!

Do you ever feel like you are doing something wrong? Like no matter what you do, your child is never happy and it’s never enough?

This morning was one of those mornings! I will spare you the details but it was a complete meltdown moment for both my child and myself.

I am one of those moms that wants to be friends with my kids, and before someone tells me “You aren’t supposed to be their friend”, let me stop you there. I am best friends with my Mother and wouldn’t have it any other way. I can talk to her about anything. I am not scared to tell her things, we have an honest relationship and I believe it’s because of how I was raised. Her friend.

Now, here is where the hard part comes in.

Those times where you can’t just be their friend. Those times where you are so mad, you can’t even think. Those times where they have every comeback in the world and you are left speechless and want to scream into a pillow. Ha this was my life today. BUUUT, how did I handle things?

I remained calm and explained to him that myself nor his dad are raising our kids to be disrespectful and hateful humans. He will be grounded from the things he loves. Spanking does not work for me. I do NOT do it especially in a moment of anger. I refuse. Some may call that weak, but I call it being able to control myself and keeping my own emotions in check.

What kind of example am I setting by telling my son he needs to control his temper tantrums, yet I don’t abide by my own standards?

My children will learn the hard way not by getting spankings but real punishments. No Cellphones, Door off the hinges, chores, no friends houses, etc…He may not be speaking to me at the moment but he knows how much I love him and he will respect me more.

Moral of the story, Not all of us have our shit together. Life isn’t rainbows and butterflies all the time. We all struggle with parenting and learning how to figure out what works with one kid and may not with the other.

I would like to know, what are some things you have struggled with and what did you do to correct your children??

Thanks for letting me vent,
Tiff