Being a Mom is easily the most rewarding, best thing in the entire world. It can also be cripplingly frustrating when you feel like you aren’t living up to society’s expectations or even your own expectations. I am 100% certain I became stronger by going through the tough times! There were some days where I felt like I was living the high life and some days where I didn’t know how I was going to do it.
As a mom, you are called to be anything and everything 100% of the time. It can be tough when you’re new to it or when you are emotionally drained.
As much as you want to just lock yourself in a closet sometimes, you have to keep going. You have to realize this is temporary and will come to pass.
I’ve put together a few major tips that have helped over the last few years.
- IT IS OK TO ASK FOR HELP ~ I am the absolute world’s worst with this one! I am a very prideful person and I hate having to ask for help. Having this mentality will get you nowhere. I am still struggling with this one because I feel like I’m Super Woman and can do it all while still maintaining my sanity. Some days being like this leaves me absolutely exhausted and stressed to the max. When I became a single mom, I was terrified and my days consisted mostly of worry and a whole lot of prayer. HAHA! But trust me, the people who love you see your struggle and are more than willing to help.
- SELF CARE IS KEY!! ~ Sometimes it’s hard to think about ourselves during tough times but this is a must. A typical day for me is waking up, making breakfast, packing lunches, getting kids ready and dropping them off at school so I can get to my full time job. Later, I pick them up, figure out dinner and usually we have baseball practice or a game. We will eat, get baths done and I try to pick up or get things done and ready for the next day. I have been going through the motions for months now and I have noticed my health and my emotional aura just draining. I am a happy person, but when you have been in a funk for a bit, it will take its toll on a person. Take care of yourself and do some things you love. I promise it helps! Take a bath, read a book, get in a good workout, eat healthier, and SLEEP!!!
- LEARN TO SAY NO ~ I am extremely guilty of being a yes woman. I agree to things when I know it’s going to put a strain on me time wise and even financially sometimes. If it makes you feel stressed or flustered, give yourself permission to say no, at least every once in a while.
- PLAN AHEAD ~ I know when I get stressed, I have a hardcore case of Mom Brain. When you start planning ahead instead of winging it, it can help you stay on track. Prep some meals for the week, make sure your clothes as well as your kids clothes are cleaned and picked out for the next morning, write out a list of any Must Do tasks so you can look back and remember. Planners are the absolute best! Here is a link to my favorite one!!
5. LET THE KIDS HELP ~Believe it or not, kids love to feel needed and important. Let them know that you have been feeling a bit overwhelmed and could really use some of their help taking the trash out, unloading the dishwasher, picking up their toys, etc. Age appropriate of course but kids LOVE helping their Mommas!
I truly hope this post helps someone out there struggling . Being a Mom is hard and it can be even harder when you’re stressed and trying to figure out just how to make things a little easier.
YOU CAN DO IT!!!