FREEDOM

How many times have you doubted yourself? How many times have you told yourself you aren’t good enough for something or even someone? How many times have you started something and then given up because it was too much work or would take too long to accomplish?

We live in a society where social media is constantly telling us who we should be, how we should look, whats acceptable and whats not. Quite frankly I can’t stand it. But yet, I still find myself constantly comparing my life to complete strangers on the internet. I have been there though, so ashamed of myself for eating too much. So disgusted with how I look. So jealous of “fitness models”. So upset that I wasn’t as successful as I thought I should be. I have had to completely change my thought process in order to finally accept myself as I am and know that I’m a badass!!

Our minds will believe everything we feed it. So quit with the negative self talk, the self hatred, the comparisons, and start telling yourself how amazing you are, how worthy, how beautiful and capable you are!!

A couple weeks ago I had a complete breakdown, crying about how “fat” I have gotten (comparing myself to stage ready). I beat myself up all weekend over it. Thought about slipping back into the grind, the extremes, the messed up eating habits that promise results. Then I thought to myself, “why on Earth would you go back to that Tiffany? Why put yourself through misery and potentially cause yet another eating disorder in your life?” I have talked in a previous post about the battle I faced with an eating disorder that still haunts me when I feel fluffy. This life is so short and I promise once you let go of diets and the mentality that you should look or be like someone else, YOU WILL BE FREE!! I always catch myself talking to myself and giving pep talks to myself haha. If I am gonna talk the talk, I’ve gotta walk the walk right? Those “models” we all see have insecurities too, that girl who is extremely successful has issues, those perfect relationships we see on social media, well that just makes me laugh because there is NO SUCH THING! Nobody wants to show their problems or admit their faults and insecurities, so just trust that nobody is perfect and not everyone has their shit together. Everyone’s journey is different and it all makes us who we are. You are unique, and that is your superpower!

I speak about personal experiences and battles I have dealt with in this blog because I KNOW I am not the only one that deals with them and if I can help just one person, I have successfully completed my mission.

“Helping one person may not change the whole world, but it could change the world for one person.”

 

Read this Book!! I promise it will shed a different light on the way you think!!

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Tips for being a Fit Mom

Between kid’s sports, school, work. laundry, and dishes, there is often very little time for us Moms to get any kind of physical activity in. I am certainly having a hard time balancing life and fitness myself. In fact, right now I actually don’t even have a routine at all. But, I do have a few tips and tricks that I have learned over the years that work for me and keep me motivated.

I go through phases where I work out every day and get into a great routine and then all the sudden, I have no time. I try not to be too hard on myself, because I know that balance requires going through these phases. I do try to constantly think of new ways to stay healthy because I need to be the best I can be for my family. Many women think you have to have abs to be considered healthy and that is simply not true. I used to be one of those women. All you need to do is make steps towards health and have a healthy mindset which is most important.

Here are a few tips that have helped me tremendously since I became a mom almost 13 years ago.

1. MINDSET ~ This is the first and most important step you must take to accomplish anything in life. Remind yourself that you have birthed children and your body may never be what it was before that. Your stomach may not ever be completely flat and your boobs will never be as perky. Sorry but it’s the truth and we all know it. But, what your body is able to do is amazing and you birthed your child which is greater than looking skinny. Embrace your body and remind yourself you are incredible!

2. SET A GOAL ~ Set a realistic goal and create your plan to get there. When we set HUGE goals at first it can be overwhelming and seem discouraging. Start small and everything will fall into place.

3. EAT CLEAN (KINDA) ~ You absolutely DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT have to eat like a fitness model to get healthy! Don’t let anyone tell you that all you can eat is Chicken, Rice and Broccoli. Trust me, You will burn out so incredibly fast with this mentality! I’ve been there! Try to stick to whole foods, prep some meals to help save time, and if you want a dang piece of cake at a birthday party, then eat the cake! Make sure you have some healthy choices at home so you aren’t tempted to go on a crazy binge eating session.

4. DO SOMETHING YOU LOVE ~ Whether it’s dancing, running, lifting weights, etc. just get in there and do whatever you can. I know for myself, if I enjoy doing it, then I am more likely to look forward to it. If you find yourself dreading it, then switch it up!

5. CUTE WORKOUT CLOTHES ~ I know that when I buy a new pair of leggings or a new tank top, I  feel better and can’t wait to workout. It’s a strange motivation but it does work! Some of my favorites are Victoria’s Secret, Fabletics,  and Lululemon.

These are just a few tips I have for staying fit through motherhood, I would love to hear how you guys do it! Being healthy is so important especially when you’re a Momma! You have kiddos who are looking up to you and that you need to take care of!

Hope you all have a great week!

 

Fitness Truths

Hello Friends!!

I know it’s been a bit since I have written anything but I have been doing life! It has been so good to me lately! I hope you all are doing well too!!

I wanted to get on here and share something that has been so heavy on my heart that I think many people in the fitness industry deal with. Hate on both ends of the spectrum!

I feel like in today’s society, we always shame ourselves or others for being “fluffy” or being heavier than we technically should be. We also feel shameful if we work our asses off and focus on ourselves. Some people call that “selfish”. Either way feels like we lose.

So how do we find a balance and love ourselves in all forms?

Personally, I have lost friends, followers, family. I have had people laugh at me, reject me, bad mouth me, tell me I would never reach certain goals, etc. But, I kept pushing. I kept doing what I felt was best FOR ME! Health & Fitness is a lifestyle and it doesn’t come easily. You have to be consistent. You have to put in the work and you have to ignore the negative noise around you. Remember this, People want you to do good, but NEVER better than them! That is what I always told myself when I would get upset someone was talking about me. So keep your chin up and do you!

I can also say, when I was larger, I was never happy with myself. I struggled with depression, eating disorders, anxiety, you name it! I didn’t learn until much later on that we have to accept ourselves in every single form. Much easier said than done, but if I would have learned to embrace myself earlier on, I would have reached my goals MUCH faster! Being healthy is much more than the physical part. You have to learn hard work ethic, discipline, dedication, and passion. There is no pill in the world that can teach you those things.

Be proud of yourself for making the choice to get healthy. This is your life, not anyone else’s. You have one body. Treat it with some respect! It is a process, and you have to learn yourself. Everyone is different but ultimately you know what’s best.

If you need help with anything, I am going to be opening some slots for online training from here on out! For information on services for meal plans, nutrition, training, supplement suggestions, etc, Email me @ TiffanyDawnFit@gmail.com

Love you all,

Tiff

How to Start Your Own Fitness Journey

I have had so many questions recently about how I got started on my fitness journey and how someone can get started on their own. So, I will give you a little rundown of how my life has gone. I grew up a gymnast and have been strong from that my entire life. At 12 years old I transitioned into cheerleading and started cheering on an All-Star squad and eventually for the school. This lasted all the way through my senior year. I LOVED IT! So I guess you can say I have had some sort of motivation all my life. I started a weight lifting class my Junior Year and fell in love with lifting weights. I would always carry around my fitness magazines and basically taught myself the ins and outs of the fitness industry. I wanted to compete. After I graduated High School, I soon got married and had my first baby. Let me tell ya, that sweet boy got ALL my attention and everything else was put on the back burner. I didn’t work so I stayed home with him all day and binge watched my shows and ate. When he was 8 months old, surprise baby #2 came along. Once again, my health and self-care was not a priority. I put on some weight and my body composition had completely changed. I had the lower belly bulge, I had cellulite, saddlebags, you name it!

One day I saw some pictures and I didn’t even recognize myself. Who had I become? I honestly was mortified.  I trained my ass off, taught myself the correct way of dieting and I haven’t looked back since that day.

So how did I start? Here are some tips.

GOALS

Sit down and write out your goals. Make sure they are realistic and attainable!

~ JOIN A GYM

This is a very scary step for someone who is introverted or has a hard time getting out of their comfort zone. Once you escape the mentality that “everyone is going to stare at you”, you will feel so elated. Honestly, no one really cares what you are doing. Get in there and compete with yourself and no one else!

~ RESEARCH

Make sure you research workout splits and certain exercises. Correct form is also a MUST. A lot of gyms have trainers on the floor that you can ask. It also may be a good idea to hire a personal trainer until you learn the correct form. This will help prevent injury which will further delay your progress.

~ TAKE IT SLOW

I always recommend clients start out slow and work up from there. Results will not happen overnight. Slow and steady wins the race and you will be much more likely to maintain your new lifestyle and results.

~ TRACK & RECORD PROGRESS

Pictures always tell the truth. The scale is one tool for tracking progress but I do not recommend only using the scale. Muscle weighs more than fat so you could possibly gain. There are also so many other factors that can contribute to weight gain such as water retention and let’s face it, us women retain water at all different times of the month. I personally like taking measurements and pictures!

 

So there you have it! All you have to do is eat healthy and exercise. Your body will reward you, it just takes time! No magic tea, pill, or program will work alone. Get off your booty and get to work!

If you need help or a guide, I am able to do those.

Email me and we will work out the details.

 

XOXO,

Tiff

 

 

 

6 Ways to Stay Motivated

Something I get asked a lot is how I stay motivated to continue a healthy lifestyle? Well, to be honest, I DON’T! I am just like the next person. I love donuts, candy, pizza, cake, you name it! I struggle every day with wanting to stay committed to my health or “treat yo self”! I absolutely love food, and I love being lazy and lounging around.

The secret for me is allowing myself NO RESTRICTIONS! When you are constantly restricting yourself from things you can’t have, it can have a reverse effect and make you want it even more! If I want a cookie, I will eat a cookie. I don’t obsess about it anymore and I won’t kill myself doing cardio to try and burn that cookie off. I don’t want to be a slave to this lifestyle and the things I enjoy.

There are days I don’t want to go to the gym. I will tell myself a million excuses to try and talk myself out of it even. Too tired, busy, too sore, other things I need to do, people to go see, etc… I have said it all. BUT, I have NEVER regretted a workout! It’s a great feeling when I leave the gym feeling accomplished. Being proud of myself for pushing through the doubt and the pain is worth it all.

So how can you stay motivated? What do I do when I am feeling unmotivated?

I’ll give you some tips and trust me they work!

~ What is your why???

Why are you doing this? Why do you want to lose weight or change your lifestyle? Do you have kids you want to set an example for? Do you have health problems that you need to get in check? Do you just want to have a kick-ass body? There are so many reasons people want to change and it should never be for anyone but you. We all have a different WHY. Think about that reason when you want to quit.

~ Look at inspirational pictures

I always do this…and not because I want to look like someone else but because it sets a certain tone for me. I follow so many fitness accounts on Instagram because those women inspire me to be better. They may push a little harder than I do and document it making me want to work harder. They may have an awesome six pack of abs that I myself am working toward. They may just have a nice quote that really gets me thinking.

~ Plan ahead

It’s so easy to say you aren’t prepared so you will just start tomorrow…. until that tomorrow turns into the next day and then the next. It’s a vicious cycle. Make a plan and stick to it!

~ Set Goals

Whether you have just a little bit of weight or a lot, always set small, realistic goals. Once you reach that goal, reward yourself (NOT WITH FOOD) and then set another one. Then smash that one! Keep going and make it a sustainable lifestyle.

~ Reward Yourself

Like I said under goals, stop rewarding yourself with food. You are not a dog. Once you reach a goal, buy a new piece of clothing that makes you feel good, new workout pants (my go to), a bikini, something that you have been wanting.

~ Take Pictures

Oh my goodness, this is where it gets good! You may not see the scale budge, you may get discouraged but ALWAYS take pictures because there is usually significant changes! I used to weigh 140lbs and dropped to 99lbs show weight. I now weigh 130-135 depending on the day but my 135lb look now is completely different because I changed my body composition lifting weights. Pictures show those changes! It is always so much fun to watch the steady changes also. You will wake up each day and want to look and see the differences.

 

Always remember fitness is a process. It takes discipline and it takes consistency. You have to continue to put in the work even after you have reached your goals. Your mind will give up WAY before your body will. Fitness is about 80% mental. This is a lifestyle change.

Commit to your health and be your own  motivation! Compete with  yourself and no one else!

 

XOXO,

Tiff

 

 

 

 

 

Supplements

Have you ever been so frustrated from not seeing results from training hard in the gym and eating clean? Let me tell you, RESULTS WILL COME! It may just take a little longer without the correct supplements or correct way of eating.

There are tons of women (and men) who think that pills and shakes are a way of life and a way to get lean. This is not the case. It is actually dangerous to live off shakes no matter what some companies tell you. Don’t buy into that nonsense. I’m speaking from experience! You have to consistently put in the work DAILY! You have to eat right, drink your water, and exercise. Supplements are a very good tool to fast track your progress, however. So, this is where a good list of supplements come in. I am a supplement FREAK!! I have tried everything under the sun and if you follow my Instagram, I am always posting about supplements I like! Below are the ones I take and LOVE! I won’t steer you wrong!

MULTIVITAMIN ~ A good multivitamin is so important for overall health whether you are working out or not. But when we workout we tend to go through our body’s nutrients much quicker. If your body becomes deficient in certain vitamins and minerals, all sorts of things can go wrong. My very favorite is  Opti-Women.

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WHEY PROTEIN ~ Get a good quality protein. Protein is so good for building muscle and an easy way to get it into your body is protein shakes. I drink protein shakes as snacks or after a good workout. NOT for a meal replacement. And NO protein will not make you bulky or fat. There are so many different yummy flavors so these are good if you are craving something sweet as well. Below is my favorite.

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FATTY ACIDS ~ Omega-3 fish oil has many benefits such as minimizing the fear of heart disease, assisting in building strong joints, improving skin quality, providing the body with a healthy dose of required fat and it reduces depression also with improving immune system function.

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BCAA’s ~ Branched Chain Amino Acids are amazing for Recovery during and after a workout. They help aid in weight loss. The amino acids are delivered directly to your muscles thus help tremendously with muscle soreness.

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FAT BURNER ~ I use these over pre-workout drinks. Only take these if you are comfortable with them and read the directions carefully. Talk to your doctor if you have any questions about them. I absolutely love fat burners and when taken correctly, they can fast-track progress! I am very picky about these and my favorite is below.

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These are the only products I take now that I am not prepping for competitions. Remember, supplements are to be used as just that, Supplements. Keep your diet clean and train hard. Your health should always be a priority over your looks!

Let me know if you have any questions.

XOXO,

Tiff

Quick Muscle Recovery Secrets

Making a lifestyle change is one of the hardest things in the world. Especially when it comes to eating clean and maintaining an active routine. What is even more difficult is when every single fiber in your body hurts after a good workout.

Ever been there? I have so many times and it can delay progress when you truly feel like you can’t move.

WHAT IS MUSCLE SORENESS?

It is technically called DOMS (Delayed-Onset Muscle Soreness) and this is the pain or stiffness you feel 24-72 hours after activity your body is not used to.

This pain is caused by tiny tears and inflammation in your muscle fibers.

Luckily this only usually lasts a couple days until you start feeling relief. This pain is felt by beginners as well as professional athletes.

Below is a list of things you can do to help.

 

WARM UP

The best thing you can do is warm up and activate the muscles you are fixing to work. During this warm up, you want to increase your heart rate and get the mind-muscle connection ready.

WATER

It is so important to stay hydrated. When we sweat, it is imperative to replenish electrolytes and sodium. Water is an important part of every day nutrition but if you are planning to workout, make sure you have hydrated to help prevent cramping and soreness. Another good supplement is BCAA’s (branch chain amino acids). I drink these during my workout. All it takes is a scoop into your water. These are amazing for recovery and hydration. I have linked the one I use below.

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CORRECT FORM

Always make sure you aren’t using so much weight that it compromises your form. Use slow, steady movements and no jerking. This will help prevent injury which will delay your performance and results.

STRETCHING

After an intense workout, it is important to stretch out the muscles you have just worked. I am a firm believer in stretching. I find it relaxing and a good way to decrease heart rate and cool down.

AFTER WORKING OUT:

ICE

I’ve seen a lot of top athletes that ice after each workout. Of course we all know ice helps with inflammation so I know it can’t hurt. Only reason I don’t ice or do ice baths is because I HATE being cold. HAHAHA!

HEAT

Not directly after your workout but once you feel the soreness setting in, a hot bath or heating pad will help relax the sore muscles. I also LOVE the sauna if you have access to one. The sauna is an excellent way to rid the body of toxins and warm up the entire body to relax stressed muscles.

MASSAGE

A massage or even home techniques will help immediately. Get a tennis ball and roll it up and down the sore muscles. Also foam rollers work wonders!!  Be gentle!

MOVEMENT

Don’t let the soreness stop you from continuing. When you keep going and do some light activity or cardio, you will increase blood flow and circulation and help your body rid that lactic acid buildup. It helps, I promise.

 

Just remember that beginning a fitness journey does not produce overnight results. You will hurt, you will be challenged and you will probably fail and come back more than once. THAT IS OK!! Listen to your body, don’t make silly excuses and take care of yourself!

Let me know if you need any help or motivation along the way! This is my passion and I am so excited for the road I am on! JOIN ME!

 

Love you all,

TIFF

 

 

How To Create a Workout Plan

We all want to get fit and have tight/toned bodies. But how do you do it? For me, I have to have a plan. I do much better when I write down my goals, what I want to train on certain days, etc.

“Failure to plan is planning to fail”

With that said, there are many ways to go about creating a workout plan. You can honestly do it all yourself, there is TONS of information on the internet now days. However, some prefer to hire a trainer who has a knowledge and background in health & fitness. (Let me know if you need one and I’m your girl). There is a lot of science that goes behind creating plans and there are reasons why trainers will ask you a bunch of questions before creating your plan. It helps us get to know you and your experiences in order to put together something that will work for you specifically. What works for you may not work for someone else.

First things first – What are your goals? Muscle Mass, Strength, Endurance, Weight Loss?

Second – Are you eating enough? Are you eating too much? Let me know if you need help with macros and how to figure those.

Third – What type of program do you need to meet your goals? If you are trying to gain a ton of muscle, yet only eating 1200 calories, sorry but it’s not going to happen. Muscle does not come out of nowhere. There are so many different meal plans to attain goals so figure out which one is best for you and your lifestyle. Something you can maintain.

Fourth – How many days are you willing to work out? You will need this information in order to come up with what days you want to train certain body parts and what days you will add cardio.

MY TYPICAL WORKOUT SPLIT

Monday ~ Back & Cardio
Tuesday ~ Legs (Glute Focused)
Wednesday ~ Shoulders & Cardio
Thursday ~ Arms
Friday ~ Legs (Quad Focused)
Saturday ~ Active Rest (Outside or some kind of Activity)
Sunday ~ REST

PS: I don’t do chest because of implants. Totally personal preference but when you have implants, the muscle will grow and push implants to the side. NO THANKS.
For abs, I just add them in when I have extra time.

Now, Choose 4-5 Exercises for each day that pertain to that specific muscle group. I do about 3-4 sets of each. If I am trying to cut down or build endurance, I will stay around 15-20 reps and lower weight of each exercise. If I am trying to put on size I stay around 6-10 reps with very heavy weight. Make sure you are using correct form 🙂

For cardio, I do a maximum of 30 minutes and I usually do stairs or a High Incline speed walk. If you want to try and lower that time and still get in your cardio, try HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training). Best HIIT workout (Sprint for 15 seconds as fast as you can, Rest for 45 seconds) Do this 15 times through and it is killer!!

Last but not least TAKE PICTURES!! You may not notice changes just by looking in the mirror! Pictures are huge for motivation!!

My advice is to take things slow. Ease into a routine and remember that sometimes it doesn’t all click at once. It takes time and consistency, practice, and TONS of learning. You will need to play with your routine and tweak it often. That’s part of the sport and part of learning. MAKE IT FUN!! This is a lifestyle, once you get to where you want to be, you can’t just stop. You will have to keep working in order to maintain. I learned this the hard way. Ha.

Let me know if you need help or you have any questions. This is a very basic explanation on how to create a plan.
Thank you all so much for your support and the sweet messages I have been getting! I Love to Help!

YOU GOT THIS!

Love,
Tiff

Tips to Become a Morning Person

Ugh Mornings. So I will be the first to tell you, I am so not a morning person. I have struggled with it for years. Well, actually my whole life if we are being honest. Haha. I hit snooze about 4-5 times every single morning, I have to drag myself out of bed. I don’t like to talk to anyone and I am slightly grumpy lol. I have always been that way and frankly it is rather annoying to me and I am sure others around me. I have made it a point to try and do some things to change it. I would give anything to be a morning person. So I have put a list together for you if you want to try it with me! These are the things I am doing every day. 🙂

~ DAILY TO DO LIST
I write out the night before everything I have to do the next day. Sometimes I will use my phone but I am old school and bought a cute Erin Condren Planner and use it every single day. It
really helps me organize my thoughts and makes things much less stressful. I am EXTREMELY forgetful so this helps reduce the anxiety of forgetting things also. I linked the one I use below.

~ HAPPY MUSIC
I am a country girl so I love me some country music. Sometimes I will be feeling some R&B, it’s really whatever I am in the mood for and will make me feel good at the time. Music is life in
my opinion and you will rarely find me not listening to it. In the mornings, it really gets me going.

~ A GOOD BREAKFAST
I LOVE breakfast and all breakfast food. It’s my favorite meal of the day and the most important for me. I make sure to eat something with protein and also carbs to keep me energized
throughout the day. You can never go wrong with eggs and Oatmeal (I like to put berries in mine). COFFEE!!! Coffee is a must for me. Please don’t skip your breakfast.

~ NATURAL LIGHT
Open some dang windows! My house feels like a dungeon sometimes because I like to keep it cozy but sometimes I need light! Not a lamp but some sunshine!!

~ MEDITATION/PRAYER
This is honestly one of my favorites. I like to put on some soft music and just sit, stretch, and reflect on life and how I am feeling. With kiddos, it’s hard to have “me” time. So when you
get a little time to yourself to just stop and gather your thoughts, it really helps set the tone for the day.

~ LARGE GLASS OF WATER
Water first thing in the morning kick starts your metabolism and helps activate your internal organs. Gets everything pumping and moving for the day!

These are just a few things I have really started incorporating into my mornings. They have honestly all helped me with my moods and fatigue throughout the day. There are some days I slack off and then I feel like I have a crappy rest of the day or I feel rushed. Those first 10 minutes after you wake up are the most influential time, so make sure you start a routine and stick to it.

I also have to really watch the time in the evenings. I am a night owl and feel like I can get more done in the evenings. It’s also very hard for me to shut my brain off so I allow myself about an hour every night to really fall asleep. Crazy Right? I wish I could just shut it off!

This kind of change has taken some commitment. At first, it is really difficult. It’s almost like retraining your mind and body. But with consistency, it is doable! Trust me, it’s completely worth losing that extra 30 minute snooze time.

Do any of you have any other tips or ideas to make mornings more enjoyable??

Body Dysmorphia

Hi friends!!
Hope everyone is having a great week, we are almost to Friday!

I wanted to jump on here and talk a little bit about Body Dysmorphia and what I have gone through with competing and being on a strict meal plan. The fitness industry is an extremely competitive industry to try to get into. It’s always one of those things where you are so motivated but what exactly are you motivated by? Almost every single one of us gets motivation by looking at other people and wanting to look a certain way or change ourselves to look different, which can be a good thing to an extent, but can also be extremely damaging. If you are wanting to change yourself in a way to be healthier and you get motivation by looking at fitness models and striving for that, then do your thing girlfriend. However, if you are trying to change your entire image and going against your beliefs to get there, that is damaging and let me tell you why.

Ever since probably my junior year in high school, I would carry fitness magazines around with me, I would go to weight training in school and do the workouts I found in those magazines, I changed eating habits and became super lean and looked awesome. Then after high school I had babies and all my attention was on them. Fitness was the last thing on my mind. I got big and was honestly lost. So I got back into it when my boys were about 3 and 4. I strived once again to be like those models in the magazines. I researched different ways of doing things and tried so many different approaches.

In 2015 I set my mind on doing a competition. I started dieting really hard and going hard in the gym. I hired a trainer for my nutrition only. I did all my workouts by myself. I trained myself. I was on a roll. I ended up doing well in the competition. I was 99lbs the day I competed. Crazy right? I did not reverse diet after the show and ended up putting on about 30lbs from my stage weight. CRAZY!!

These past two years after my show have been a complete mind struggle. When I was prepping for the show, that is what consumed me. My thoughts, my lifestyle, everything was so obsessive! I would carry a huge lunchbox around full of my food every day. I rarely had cheat meals and when I did, I would cry and do cardio until my clothes were soaked and still feel guilty. My family would tell me to eat, my mom was worried about me because I was soooo thin. My face was sunk in and I was so tired. But I was this “inspiration” and I looked awesome. Let me tell you, I was miserable and I was NOT an inspiration. I was living a lie but I didn’t want to stop. I checked my weight every time I would go into the bathroom, even when I just drank water. It was ridiculous.

I started to take little breaks here and there from the gym and would go into a depression because I felt disgusting. I would eat my feelings and then throw it all up. YES, I developed a case of bulimia. I am going to be very real with you. This stuff is no joke! I was struggling so badly and have only recently sought some help for this. I was so tired, couldn’t go to the gym, had no desire really to go to the gym. You know why? Because I was scared of what everyone would say. “There’s that girl, she got fat.” “What happened to her, she used to be so fit.” I was TERRIFIED of these comments! Still am to be honest. If someone looks at me too long, I am thinking all sorts of negative things! You guys I weigh 131lbs. I am not fat. I am thick but far from being fat. I was seeing something totally different than what everyone else sees. I confided in a friend and they told me “Tiffany, no one cares what you are doing as long as you are happy. Put a hoodie on, headphones on, get your ass in the gym and workout, get your fire back!” WOW those words were all I needed to hear.

I have not been back yet but I have started dieting again. I hate the word diet but I am doing IIFYM. I will do another post on this portion later but yes I have changed my habits again. I am working out at home, doing what I need to do, and evolving into a new human. BALANCE.

I am honestly so excited to be changing again. Life is hard, life throws curve balls and you learn to roll with them. I struggle every day with body dysmorphia but I am starting to know my triggers and what I can do to get past those moments. I am going to leave you with a few little tips that have helped me start down a healthier body image and a much stronger path.

TIPS

1. Journal!! Start writing everything down. What you ate, how that made you feel. How you are feeling during the day, are you hungry? Are you sad, angry? What made you feel this way?

2. Self Affirmation – Tell yourself something every single morning that you like about yourself.

3. Start taking care of your mind – Be nice to yourself like you would a friend.

4. Surround yourself with Positive people – You become who you hang out with. Be around people who love you, care for you, and lift you up!

5. Get adequate sleep – You need sleep to be fully functional.

6. Recognize the voice that tells you negative things about yourself.

7. Ask yourself if you are a motivation to others around you – Would you want your kids to be like this? What would you say to your friends or family if they were going through this?

8. Get Help – Go talk to a professional. Sometimes there are underlying causes for what you are going through. That is their job and you will not be judged!

If you are struggling at all with this or anything else, email me!! I am by no means a professional but I am always willing to listen and give you my opinion and thoughts.

I love you all,

Tiff