Tips for being a Fit Mom

Between kid’s sports, school, work. laundry, and dishes, there is often very little time for us Moms to get any kind of physical activity in. I am certainly having a hard time balancing life and fitness myself. In fact, right now I actually don’t even have a routine at all. But, I do have a few tips and tricks that I have learned over the years that work for me and keep me motivated.

I go through phases where I work out every day and get into a great routine and then all the sudden, I have no time. I try not to be too hard on myself, because I know that balance requires going through these phases. I do try to constantly think of new ways to stay healthy because I need to be the best I can be for my family. Many women think you have to have abs to be considered healthy and that is simply not true. I used to be one of those women. All you need to do is make steps towards health and have a healthy mindset which is most important.

Here are a few tips that have helped me tremendously since I became a mom almost 13 years ago.

1. MINDSET ~ This is the first and most important step you must take to accomplish anything in life. Remind yourself that you have birthed children and your body may never be what it was before that. Your stomach may not ever be completely flat and your boobs will never be as perky. Sorry but it’s the truth and we all know it. But, what your body is able to do is amazing and you birthed your child which is greater than looking skinny. Embrace your body and remind yourself you are incredible!

2. SET A GOAL ~ Set a realistic goal and create your plan to get there. When we set HUGE goals at first it can be overwhelming and seem discouraging. Start small and everything will fall into place.

3. EAT CLEAN (KINDA) ~ You absolutely DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT have to eat like a fitness model to get healthy! Don’t let anyone tell you that all you can eat is Chicken, Rice and Broccoli. Trust me, You will burn out so incredibly fast with this mentality! I’ve been there! Try to stick to whole foods, prep some meals to help save time, and if you want a dang piece of cake at a birthday party, then eat the cake! Make sure you have some healthy choices at home so you aren’t tempted to go on a crazy binge eating session.

4. DO SOMETHING YOU LOVE ~ Whether it’s dancing, running, lifting weights, etc. just get in there and do whatever you can. I know for myself, if I enjoy doing it, then I am more likely to look forward to it. If you find yourself dreading it, then switch it up!

5. CUTE WORKOUT CLOTHES ~ I know that when I buy a new pair of leggings or a new tank top, I  feel better and can’t wait to workout. It’s a strange motivation but it does work! Some of my favorites are Victoria’s Secret, Fabletics,  and Lululemon.

These are just a few tips I have for staying fit through motherhood, I would love to hear how you guys do it! Being healthy is so important especially when you’re a Momma! You have kiddos who are looking up to you and that you need to take care of!

Hope you all have a great week!

 

6 Ways to Stay Motivated

Something I get asked a lot is how I stay motivated to continue a healthy lifestyle? Well, to be honest, I DON’T! I am just like the next person. I love donuts, candy, pizza, cake, you name it! I struggle every day with wanting to stay committed to my health or “treat yo self”! I absolutely love food, and I love being lazy and lounging around.

The secret for me is allowing myself NO RESTRICTIONS! When you are constantly restricting yourself from things you can’t have, it can have a reverse effect and make you want it even more! If I want a cookie, I will eat a cookie. I don’t obsess about it anymore and I won’t kill myself doing cardio to try and burn that cookie off. I don’t want to be a slave to this lifestyle and the things I enjoy.

There are days I don’t want to go to the gym. I will tell myself a million excuses to try and talk myself out of it even. Too tired, busy, too sore, other things I need to do, people to go see, etc… I have said it all. BUT, I have NEVER regretted a workout! It’s a great feeling when I leave the gym feeling accomplished. Being proud of myself for pushing through the doubt and the pain is worth it all.

So how can you stay motivated? What do I do when I am feeling unmotivated?

I’ll give you some tips and trust me they work!

~ What is your why???

Why are you doing this? Why do you want to lose weight or change your lifestyle? Do you have kids you want to set an example for? Do you have health problems that you need to get in check? Do you just want to have a kick-ass body? There are so many reasons people want to change and it should never be for anyone but you. We all have a different WHY. Think about that reason when you want to quit.

~ Look at inspirational pictures

I always do this…and not because I want to look like someone else but because it sets a certain tone for me. I follow so many fitness accounts on Instagram because those women inspire me to be better. They may push a little harder than I do and document it making me want to work harder. They may have an awesome six pack of abs that I myself am working toward. They may just have a nice quote that really gets me thinking.

~ Plan ahead

It’s so easy to say you aren’t prepared so you will just start tomorrow…. until that tomorrow turns into the next day and then the next. It’s a vicious cycle. Make a plan and stick to it!

~ Set Goals

Whether you have just a little bit of weight or a lot, always set small, realistic goals. Once you reach that goal, reward yourself (NOT WITH FOOD) and then set another one. Then smash that one! Keep going and make it a sustainable lifestyle.

~ Reward Yourself

Like I said under goals, stop rewarding yourself with food. You are not a dog. Once you reach a goal, buy a new piece of clothing that makes you feel good, new workout pants (my go to), a bikini, something that you have been wanting.

~ Take Pictures

Oh my goodness, this is where it gets good! You may not see the scale budge, you may get discouraged but ALWAYS take pictures because there is usually significant changes! I used to weigh 140lbs and dropped to 99lbs show weight. I now weigh 130-135 depending on the day but my 135lb look now is completely different because I changed my body composition lifting weights. Pictures show those changes! It is always so much fun to watch the steady changes also. You will wake up each day and want to look and see the differences.

 

Always remember fitness is a process. It takes discipline and it takes consistency. You have to continue to put in the work even after you have reached your goals. Your mind will give up WAY before your body will. Fitness is about 80% mental. This is a lifestyle change.

Commit to your health and be your own  motivation! Compete with  yourself and no one else!

 

XOXO,

Tiff

 

 

 

 

 

How To Create a Workout Plan

We all want to get fit and have tight/toned bodies. But how do you do it? For me, I have to have a plan. I do much better when I write down my goals, what I want to train on certain days, etc.

“Failure to plan is planning to fail”

With that said, there are many ways to go about creating a workout plan. You can honestly do it all yourself, there is TONS of information on the internet now days. However, some prefer to hire a trainer who has a knowledge and background in health & fitness. (Let me know if you need one and I’m your girl). There is a lot of science that goes behind creating plans and there are reasons why trainers will ask you a bunch of questions before creating your plan. It helps us get to know you and your experiences in order to put together something that will work for you specifically. What works for you may not work for someone else.

First things first – What are your goals? Muscle Mass, Strength, Endurance, Weight Loss?

Second – Are you eating enough? Are you eating too much? Let me know if you need help with macros and how to figure those.

Third – What type of program do you need to meet your goals? If you are trying to gain a ton of muscle, yet only eating 1200 calories, sorry but it’s not going to happen. Muscle does not come out of nowhere. There are so many different meal plans to attain goals so figure out which one is best for you and your lifestyle. Something you can maintain.

Fourth – How many days are you willing to work out? You will need this information in order to come up with what days you want to train certain body parts and what days you will add cardio.

MY TYPICAL WORKOUT SPLIT

Monday ~ Back & Cardio
Tuesday ~ Legs (Glute Focused)
Wednesday ~ Shoulders & Cardio
Thursday ~ Arms
Friday ~ Legs (Quad Focused)
Saturday ~ Active Rest (Outside or some kind of Activity)
Sunday ~ REST

PS: I don’t do chest because of implants. Totally personal preference but when you have implants, the muscle will grow and push implants to the side. NO THANKS.
For abs, I just add them in when I have extra time.

Now, Choose 4-5 Exercises for each day that pertain to that specific muscle group. I do about 3-4 sets of each. If I am trying to cut down or build endurance, I will stay around 15-20 reps and lower weight of each exercise. If I am trying to put on size I stay around 6-10 reps with very heavy weight. Make sure you are using correct form 🙂

For cardio, I do a maximum of 30 minutes and I usually do stairs or a High Incline speed walk. If you want to try and lower that time and still get in your cardio, try HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training). Best HIIT workout (Sprint for 15 seconds as fast as you can, Rest for 45 seconds) Do this 15 times through and it is killer!!

Last but not least TAKE PICTURES!! You may not notice changes just by looking in the mirror! Pictures are huge for motivation!!

My advice is to take things slow. Ease into a routine and remember that sometimes it doesn’t all click at once. It takes time and consistency, practice, and TONS of learning. You will need to play with your routine and tweak it often. That’s part of the sport and part of learning. MAKE IT FUN!! This is a lifestyle, once you get to where you want to be, you can’t just stop. You will have to keep working in order to maintain. I learned this the hard way. Ha.

Let me know if you need help or you have any questions. This is a very basic explanation on how to create a plan.
Thank you all so much for your support and the sweet messages I have been getting! I Love to Help!

YOU GOT THIS!

Love,
Tiff

Body Dysmorphia

Hi friends!!
Hope everyone is having a great week, we are almost to Friday!

I wanted to jump on here and talk a little bit about Body Dysmorphia and what I have gone through with competing and being on a strict meal plan. The fitness industry is an extremely competitive industry to try to get into. It’s always one of those things where you are so motivated but what exactly are you motivated by? Almost every single one of us gets motivation by looking at other people and wanting to look a certain way or change ourselves to look different, which can be a good thing to an extent, but can also be extremely damaging. If you are wanting to change yourself in a way to be healthier and you get motivation by looking at fitness models and striving for that, then do your thing girlfriend. However, if you are trying to change your entire image and going against your beliefs to get there, that is damaging and let me tell you why.

Ever since probably my junior year in high school, I would carry fitness magazines around with me, I would go to weight training in school and do the workouts I found in those magazines, I changed eating habits and became super lean and looked awesome. Then after high school I had babies and all my attention was on them. Fitness was the last thing on my mind. I got big and was honestly lost. So I got back into it when my boys were about 3 and 4. I strived once again to be like those models in the magazines. I researched different ways of doing things and tried so many different approaches.

In 2015 I set my mind on doing a competition. I started dieting really hard and going hard in the gym. I hired a trainer for my nutrition only. I did all my workouts by myself. I trained myself. I was on a roll. I ended up doing well in the competition. I was 99lbs the day I competed. Crazy right? I did not reverse diet after the show and ended up putting on about 30lbs from my stage weight. CRAZY!!

These past two years after my show have been a complete mind struggle. When I was prepping for the show, that is what consumed me. My thoughts, my lifestyle, everything was so obsessive! I would carry a huge lunchbox around full of my food every day. I rarely had cheat meals and when I did, I would cry and do cardio until my clothes were soaked and still feel guilty. My family would tell me to eat, my mom was worried about me because I was soooo thin. My face was sunk in and I was so tired. But I was this “inspiration” and I looked awesome. Let me tell you, I was miserable and I was NOT an inspiration. I was living a lie but I didn’t want to stop. I checked my weight every time I would go into the bathroom, even when I just drank water. It was ridiculous.

I started to take little breaks here and there from the gym and would go into a depression because I felt disgusting. I would eat my feelings and then throw it all up. YES, I developed a case of bulimia. I am going to be very real with you. This stuff is no joke! I was struggling so badly and have only recently sought some help for this. I was so tired, couldn’t go to the gym, had no desire really to go to the gym. You know why? Because I was scared of what everyone would say. “There’s that girl, she got fat.” “What happened to her, she used to be so fit.” I was TERRIFIED of these comments! Still am to be honest. If someone looks at me too long, I am thinking all sorts of negative things! You guys I weigh 131lbs. I am not fat. I am thick but far from being fat. I was seeing something totally different than what everyone else sees. I confided in a friend and they told me “Tiffany, no one cares what you are doing as long as you are happy. Put a hoodie on, headphones on, get your ass in the gym and workout, get your fire back!” WOW those words were all I needed to hear.

I have not been back yet but I have started dieting again. I hate the word diet but I am doing IIFYM. I will do another post on this portion later but yes I have changed my habits again. I am working out at home, doing what I need to do, and evolving into a new human. BALANCE.

I am honestly so excited to be changing again. Life is hard, life throws curve balls and you learn to roll with them. I struggle every day with body dysmorphia but I am starting to know my triggers and what I can do to get past those moments. I am going to leave you with a few little tips that have helped me start down a healthier body image and a much stronger path.

TIPS

1. Journal!! Start writing everything down. What you ate, how that made you feel. How you are feeling during the day, are you hungry? Are you sad, angry? What made you feel this way?

2. Self Affirmation – Tell yourself something every single morning that you like about yourself.

3. Start taking care of your mind – Be nice to yourself like you would a friend.

4. Surround yourself with Positive people – You become who you hang out with. Be around people who love you, care for you, and lift you up!

5. Get adequate sleep – You need sleep to be fully functional.

6. Recognize the voice that tells you negative things about yourself.

7. Ask yourself if you are a motivation to others around you – Would you want your kids to be like this? What would you say to your friends or family if they were going through this?

8. Get Help – Go talk to a professional. Sometimes there are underlying causes for what you are going through. That is their job and you will not be judged!

If you are struggling at all with this or anything else, email me!! I am by no means a professional but I am always willing to listen and give you my opinion and thoughts.

I love you all,

Tiff

Leaning Out

Hi guys! So I have had a lot of messages on Facebook and Instagram lately about what I typically eat when I lean down. I will have you know, I started a strict meal plan on Monday (yesterday). I have been known to fluctuated quite frequently with my weight and physique. I can get lean, muscular, skinny, fluffy lol, etc… And if I can change my body, so can you! I know what it takes to get to where I am comfortable but some of you may not. Well, I will help guide you. I am going to give you a little sample of what I eat during a cut (slim down) phase and what I do for workouts. As far as working out, I do like going to the gym because I find that I stay more motivated and I just really like the atmosphere. If you are one that doesn’t like the gym, try going outside or I even have some things you can do in the privacy of your living room. I will list those below.

So for diet,

I stick to about 5 meals per day. I portion them out and yes I weigh (you can find cheap food scales at Walmart) the protein I take in. I eat 6 oz. of lean meat for about 4 of those meals. Lean meat would be white fish, chicken, turkey, lean ground beef, whatever you like. I then add a carb to 2-3 meals (typically the morning and lunchtime meals). Carb amounts will range depending on each person and activity level. Carbs I consume are: oats, apples, grapefruits, red potatoes, sweet potatoes and rice. I add about 1 cup of green veggies at least to each meal. The meal that I don’t eat meat for is usually a whey protein shake and a  medium grapefruit. Super simple and you can take it with you on the go.

Honestly that is IT! I drink a gallon of water a day even if I drink coffee, tea, or any other beverage.

For workouts,

I DON’T do a lot of cardio. And yes it shows sometimes but I prefer a thicker build and am more comfortable that way. I hate to run but will do sprints if I want to do a quick cardio session. Other than that, the only cardio equipment I use is the StairClimber. I stay on it for a maximum of 30 minutes and I don’t do any of that crazy stuff on there lol. I set on level 7 minimum but take your time and work your way up to what you are comfortable with. DO NOT lean on the machine.

I love weights and I prefer a muscular look. When I lift, I go usually pretty heavy (start with whats comfortable) and I do 4-5 sets of 8-12 reps. I choose about 6 exercises and thats what I go with.

If you don’t like the gym, get outside and jog, do some jumping jacks, walk your dog, play with your kids, etc. There are a ton of ways to get activity in.

In home exercises – Squats, lunges, hip thrusts, calf raises, push ups, dips, crunches, planks, burpees, wall sits, etc!!! There are soooo many more.

Don’t let the gym scare you! We we’re all beginners at one point. I was terrified to go into a gym where I felt I would be judged. But let me tell you, I have found some life long friends and motivators in there!

IT WILL NOT BE EASY! BUT IT WILL BE WORTH IT!

If you have questions or want a more in depth program for yourself, email me @ Tiffh0921@yahoo.com

 

Have a great week friends!!!

Tiff