FREEDOM

How many times have you doubted yourself? How many times have you told yourself you aren’t good enough for something or even someone? How many times have you started something and then given up because it was too much work or would take too long to accomplish?

We live in a society where social media is constantly telling us who we should be, how we should look, whats acceptable and whats not. Quite frankly I can’t stand it. But yet, I still find myself constantly comparing my life to complete strangers on the internet. I have been there though, so ashamed of myself for eating too much. So disgusted with how I look. So jealous of “fitness models”. So upset that I wasn’t as successful as I thought I should be. I have had to completely change my thought process in order to finally accept myself as I am and know that I’m a badass!!

Our minds will believe everything we feed it. So quit with the negative self talk, the self hatred, the comparisons, and start telling yourself how amazing you are, how worthy, how beautiful and capable you are!!

A couple weeks ago I had a complete breakdown, crying about how “fat” I have gotten (comparing myself to stage ready). I beat myself up all weekend over it. Thought about slipping back into the grind, the extremes, the messed up eating habits that promise results. Then I thought to myself, “why on Earth would you go back to that Tiffany? Why put yourself through misery and potentially cause yet another eating disorder in your life?” I have talked in a previous post about the battle I faced with an eating disorder that still haunts me when I feel fluffy. This life is so short and I promise once you let go of diets and the mentality that you should look or be like someone else, YOU WILL BE FREE!! I always catch myself talking to myself and giving pep talks to myself haha. If I am gonna talk the talk, I’ve gotta walk the walk right? Those “models” we all see have insecurities too, that girl who is extremely successful has issues, those perfect relationships we see on social media, well that just makes me laugh because there is NO SUCH THING! Nobody wants to show their problems or admit their faults and insecurities, so just trust that nobody is perfect and not everyone has their shit together. Everyone’s journey is different and it all makes us who we are. You are unique, and that is your superpower!

I speak about personal experiences and battles I have dealt with in this blog because I KNOW I am not the only one that deals with them and if I can help just one person, I have successfully completed my mission.

“Helping one person may not change the whole world, but it could change the world for one person.”

 

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The Light at the End of the Tunnel

So as we all know, I recently got divorced. At first it was so hard trying to juggle everything alone. However, things around our home are changing – and I am sure many of you are going through some life changes right now as well.

So this post is going to  be about how I am juggling being a mom, a gym rat, having a full-time job, two dogs, as well as a social life.

I will say, when I was alone at first…I had so much anxiety. My brain was thinking and working differently than usual. I couldn’t focus, felt unmotivated, and was so crabby and irritable. I like routine. I like things done a certain way and when my world shifts, it brings on feelings of anxiety. I have always been this way. So, I have learned how to adapt and that is exactly what I want to share with you today.

What I have learned the most is I AM A BADASS! I have never known my strength until recently. You guys, I have been completely dependent on men my whole life, only to bring disappointment. HAHA! But for real, we are so much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. Here are some survival tips when you are going through a big life change!!!

  1. STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF – This will make you feel so much worse. I was so bad at doing this. Life goes on and trust me it is not the end of the world.
  2. Gather all your financial data – Get together all your bills, write them down, write down your income and set a budget. There are so many templates for these.
  3. Accept Help – If you are like me, you are too stubborn and independent to even ask. But, sometimes it is so nice to get at least one hard task off your shoulders. If someone truly wants to help, let them.
  4. Get healthy – Eating clean and going to the gym will do wonders for not only your self esteem, but it will clear your mind and give you some “YOU” time!
  5. Set goals – Get your head on straight and set a goal for yourself or you and your family. Work your ass off until you reach that goal!
  6. Be Proud – You can do hard things! It’s all going to work out and you need to allow yourself to be proud of your accomplishments!
  7. One Day at a Time – Not everything is going to fix itself over night. Just focus on what you’re working towards. Become whatever you want to be! You only get one life! Don’t spend it being down!

Everyone goes through hardships, but I can promise about 90% of the time, they are a blessing in disguise. You don’t see the good when it feels like everything is crashing down around you. But, one day you wake up, snap out of it, and see the bigger picture. Be strong and give it Hell!!!

 

XOXO,

Tiff

 

How to Start Your Own Fitness Journey

I have had so many questions recently about how I got started on my fitness journey and how someone can get started on their own. So, I will give you a little rundown of how my life has gone. I grew up a gymnast and have been strong from that my entire life. At 12 years old I transitioned into cheerleading and started cheering on an All-Star squad and eventually for the school. This lasted all the way through my senior year. I LOVED IT! So I guess you can say I have had some sort of motivation all my life. I started a weight lifting class my Junior Year and fell in love with lifting weights. I would always carry around my fitness magazines and basically taught myself the ins and outs of the fitness industry. I wanted to compete. After I graduated High School, I soon got married and had my first baby. Let me tell ya, that sweet boy got ALL my attention and everything else was put on the back burner. I didn’t work so I stayed home with him all day and binge watched my shows and ate. When he was 8 months old, surprise baby #2 came along. Once again, my health and self-care was not a priority. I put on some weight and my body composition had completely changed. I had the lower belly bulge, I had cellulite, saddlebags, you name it!

One day I saw some pictures and I didn’t even recognize myself. Who had I become? I honestly was mortified.  I trained my ass off, taught myself the correct way of dieting and I haven’t looked back since that day.

So how did I start? Here are some tips.

GOALS

Sit down and write out your goals. Make sure they are realistic and attainable!

~ JOIN A GYM

This is a very scary step for someone who is introverted or has a hard time getting out of their comfort zone. Once you escape the mentality that “everyone is going to stare at you”, you will feel so elated. Honestly, no one really cares what you are doing. Get in there and compete with yourself and no one else!

~ RESEARCH

Make sure you research workout splits and certain exercises. Correct form is also a MUST. A lot of gyms have trainers on the floor that you can ask. It also may be a good idea to hire a personal trainer until you learn the correct form. This will help prevent injury which will further delay your progress.

~ TAKE IT SLOW

I always recommend clients start out slow and work up from there. Results will not happen overnight. Slow and steady wins the race and you will be much more likely to maintain your new lifestyle and results.

~ TRACK & RECORD PROGRESS

Pictures always tell the truth. The scale is one tool for tracking progress but I do not recommend only using the scale. Muscle weighs more than fat so you could possibly gain. There are also so many other factors that can contribute to weight gain such as water retention and let’s face it, us women retain water at all different times of the month. I personally like taking measurements and pictures!

 

So there you have it! All you have to do is eat healthy and exercise. Your body will reward you, it just takes time! No magic tea, pill, or program will work alone. Get off your booty and get to work!

If you need help or a guide, I am able to do those.

Email me and we will work out the details.

 

XOXO,

Tiff

 

 

 

6 Ways to Stay Motivated

Something I get asked a lot is how I stay motivated to continue a healthy lifestyle? Well, to be honest, I DON’T! I am just like the next person. I love donuts, candy, pizza, cake, you name it! I struggle every day with wanting to stay committed to my health or “treat yo self”! I absolutely love food, and I love being lazy and lounging around.

The secret for me is allowing myself NO RESTRICTIONS! When you are constantly restricting yourself from things you can’t have, it can have a reverse effect and make you want it even more! If I want a cookie, I will eat a cookie. I don’t obsess about it anymore and I won’t kill myself doing cardio to try and burn that cookie off. I don’t want to be a slave to this lifestyle and the things I enjoy.

There are days I don’t want to go to the gym. I will tell myself a million excuses to try and talk myself out of it even. Too tired, busy, too sore, other things I need to do, people to go see, etc… I have said it all. BUT, I have NEVER regretted a workout! It’s a great feeling when I leave the gym feeling accomplished. Being proud of myself for pushing through the doubt and the pain is worth it all.

So how can you stay motivated? What do I do when I am feeling unmotivated?

I’ll give you some tips and trust me they work!

~ What is your why???

Why are you doing this? Why do you want to lose weight or change your lifestyle? Do you have kids you want to set an example for? Do you have health problems that you need to get in check? Do you just want to have a kick-ass body? There are so many reasons people want to change and it should never be for anyone but you. We all have a different WHY. Think about that reason when you want to quit.

~ Look at inspirational pictures

I always do this…and not because I want to look like someone else but because it sets a certain tone for me. I follow so many fitness accounts on Instagram because those women inspire me to be better. They may push a little harder than I do and document it making me want to work harder. They may have an awesome six pack of abs that I myself am working toward. They may just have a nice quote that really gets me thinking.

~ Plan ahead

It’s so easy to say you aren’t prepared so you will just start tomorrow…. until that tomorrow turns into the next day and then the next. It’s a vicious cycle. Make a plan and stick to it!

~ Set Goals

Whether you have just a little bit of weight or a lot, always set small, realistic goals. Once you reach that goal, reward yourself (NOT WITH FOOD) and then set another one. Then smash that one! Keep going and make it a sustainable lifestyle.

~ Reward Yourself

Like I said under goals, stop rewarding yourself with food. You are not a dog. Once you reach a goal, buy a new piece of clothing that makes you feel good, new workout pants (my go to), a bikini, something that you have been wanting.

~ Take Pictures

Oh my goodness, this is where it gets good! You may not see the scale budge, you may get discouraged but ALWAYS take pictures because there is usually significant changes! I used to weigh 140lbs and dropped to 99lbs show weight. I now weigh 130-135 depending on the day but my 135lb look now is completely different because I changed my body composition lifting weights. Pictures show those changes! It is always so much fun to watch the steady changes also. You will wake up each day and want to look and see the differences.

 

Always remember fitness is a process. It takes discipline and it takes consistency. You have to continue to put in the work even after you have reached your goals. Your mind will give up WAY before your body will. Fitness is about 80% mental. This is a lifestyle change.

Commit to your health and be your own  motivation! Compete with  yourself and no one else!

 

XOXO,

Tiff

 

 

 

 

 

Tips to Become a Morning Person

Ugh Mornings. So I will be the first to tell you, I am so not a morning person. I have struggled with it for years. Well, actually my whole life if we are being honest. Haha. I hit snooze about 4-5 times every single morning, I have to drag myself out of bed. I don’t like to talk to anyone and I am slightly grumpy lol. I have always been that way and frankly it is rather annoying to me and I am sure others around me. I have made it a point to try and do some things to change it. I would give anything to be a morning person. So I have put a list together for you if you want to try it with me! These are the things I am doing every day. 🙂

~ DAILY TO DO LIST
I write out the night before everything I have to do the next day. Sometimes I will use my phone but I am old school and bought a cute Erin Condren Planner and use it every single day. It
really helps me organize my thoughts and makes things much less stressful. I am EXTREMELY forgetful so this helps reduce the anxiety of forgetting things also. I linked the one I use below.

~ HAPPY MUSIC
I am a country girl so I love me some country music. Sometimes I will be feeling some R&B, it’s really whatever I am in the mood for and will make me feel good at the time. Music is life in
my opinion and you will rarely find me not listening to it. In the mornings, it really gets me going.

~ A GOOD BREAKFAST
I LOVE breakfast and all breakfast food. It’s my favorite meal of the day and the most important for me. I make sure to eat something with protein and also carbs to keep me energized
throughout the day. You can never go wrong with eggs and Oatmeal (I like to put berries in mine). COFFEE!!! Coffee is a must for me. Please don’t skip your breakfast.

~ NATURAL LIGHT
Open some dang windows! My house feels like a dungeon sometimes because I like to keep it cozy but sometimes I need light! Not a lamp but some sunshine!!

~ MEDITATION/PRAYER
This is honestly one of my favorites. I like to put on some soft music and just sit, stretch, and reflect on life and how I am feeling. With kiddos, it’s hard to have “me” time. So when you
get a little time to yourself to just stop and gather your thoughts, it really helps set the tone for the day.

~ LARGE GLASS OF WATER
Water first thing in the morning kick starts your metabolism and helps activate your internal organs. Gets everything pumping and moving for the day!

These are just a few things I have really started incorporating into my mornings. They have honestly all helped me with my moods and fatigue throughout the day. There are some days I slack off and then I feel like I have a crappy rest of the day or I feel rushed. Those first 10 minutes after you wake up are the most influential time, so make sure you start a routine and stick to it.

I also have to really watch the time in the evenings. I am a night owl and feel like I can get more done in the evenings. It’s also very hard for me to shut my brain off so I allow myself about an hour every night to really fall asleep. Crazy Right? I wish I could just shut it off!

This kind of change has taken some commitment. At first, it is really difficult. It’s almost like retraining your mind and body. But with consistency, it is doable! Trust me, it’s completely worth losing that extra 30 minute snooze time.

Do any of you have any other tips or ideas to make mornings more enjoyable??

IM BACK!!!!

Hi Friends!! Thank you so much for visiting my new and improved blog where I will let you in on everything from fitness, kids, beauty tips, life lessons, etc… I am so excited to be back doing what I love. I love to write and I love depth. I am an extremely emotional person and when something hits, it hits hard! I hope I can motivate you guys and share personal experiences that may help someone else overcome struggle and be a better version of themselves. 🙂 So I will start by sharing some things that are currently going on in my life.

As many of you know, I recently dealt with some health struggles. I had my breast implants removed in March and that has been an emotional roller coaster in itself. I thought all my problems would be solved but unfortunately they are not! A few things got better and a few things got worse. I will get into what I am going to do about that in a later post. I did have my 4th Sinus Surgery a couple weeks ago. So far so good! I am on the road to recovery with that one and hopefully my issues won’t come back!

For fitness, I am planning on starting a cut in the next week. I haven’t decided if I will track my macros yet or just eat clean. I haven’t been tracking or eating clean AT ALL for the past few months. I am so ready to get back to it. Fitness is truly something that I can turn to when I am dealing with life. It helps me relieve stress, forget my problems, and just listen to my body. Its MY time. I have been neglecting that time and honestly could really use it. I post a lot of my fitness activity and progress on Instagram so follow me if you want to see that 🙂

As far as life in general, IT IS HARD! Sometimes I truly have to ask myself, how did I get here? Then I get down and have to rethink my life and the decisions I have made and why I made them. I will get into things more in depth in another post but we all have those moments in life where it is definitely not rainbows and butterflies. I am in one of those seasons of life. For now, I will roll with the punches and stay strong. I cling to my babies because I need them and they need me. I am a strong woman who has overcome a lot in my life. I can do this!

Like I stated earlier, I am so excited to be writing again. I will keep you guys updated frequently and let you in on TONS of fun stuff! Until next time…. xoxo

 

Tiff