Mom Life is HARD!

Being a Mom is easily the most rewarding, best thing in the entire world. It can also be cripplingly frustrating when you feel like you aren’t living up to society’s expectations or even your own expectations. I am 100% certain I became stronger by going through the tough times! There were some days where I felt like I was living the high life and some days where I didn’t know how I was going to do it.

As a mom, you are called to be anything and everything 100% of the time. It can be tough when you’re new to it or when you are emotionally drained.

As much as you want to just lock yourself in a closet sometimes, you have to keep going. You have to realize this is temporary and will come to pass.

I’ve put together a few major tips that have helped over the last few years.

  1. IT IS OK TO ASK FOR HELP ~ I am the absolute world’s worst with this one! I am a very prideful person and I hate having to ask for help. Having this mentality will get you nowhere. I am still struggling with this one because I feel like I’m Super Woman and can do it all while still maintaining my sanity. Some days being like this leaves me absolutely exhausted and stressed to the max. When I became a single mom, I was terrified and my days consisted mostly of worry and a whole lot of prayer. HAHA! But trust me, the people who love you see your struggle and are more than willing to help.
  2. SELF CARE IS KEY!! ~ Sometimes it’s hard to think about ourselves during tough times but this is a must. A typical day for me is waking up, making breakfast, packing lunches, getting kids ready and dropping them off at school so I can get to my full time job. Later, I pick them up, figure out dinner and usually we have baseball practice or a game. We will eat, get baths done and I try to pick up or get things done and ready for the next day. I have been going through the motions for months now and I have noticed my health and my emotional aura just draining. I am a happy person, but when you have been in a funk for a bit, it will take its toll on a person. Take care of yourself and do some things you love. I promise it helps! Take a bath, read a book, get in a good workout, eat healthier, and SLEEP!!!
  3. LEARN TO SAY NO ~ I am extremely guilty of being a yes woman. I agree to things when I know it’s going to put a strain on me time wise and even financially sometimes. If it makes you feel stressed or flustered, give  yourself permission to say no, at least every once in a while.
  4. PLAN AHEAD ~ I know when I get stressed, I have a hardcore case of Mom Brain. When you start planning ahead instead of winging it, it can help you stay on track. Prep some meals for the week, make sure your clothes as well as your kids clothes are cleaned and picked out for the next morning, write out a list of any Must Do tasks so you can look back and remember. Planners are the absolute best! Here is a link to my favorite one!!

https://amzn.to/2YcCItr

5. LET THE KIDS HELP ~Believe it or not, kids love to feel needed and important. Let them know that you have been feeling a bit overwhelmed and could really use some of their help taking the trash out, unloading the dishwasher, picking up their toys, etc. Age appropriate of course but kids LOVE helping their Mommas!

I truly hope this post helps someone out there struggling . Being a Mom is hard and it can be even harder when you’re stressed and trying to figure out just how to make things a little easier.

YOU CAN DO IT!!!

 

Love,

Tiff

Tips for being a Fit Mom

Between kid’s sports, school, work. laundry, and dishes, there is often very little time for us Moms to get any kind of physical activity in. I am certainly having a hard time balancing life and fitness myself. In fact, right now I actually don’t even have a routine at all. But, I do have a few tips and tricks that I have learned over the years that work for me and keep me motivated.

I go through phases where I work out every day and get into a great routine and then all the sudden, I have no time. I try not to be too hard on myself, because I know that balance requires going through these phases. I do try to constantly think of new ways to stay healthy because I need to be the best I can be for my family. Many women think you have to have abs to be considered healthy and that is simply not true. I used to be one of those women. All you need to do is make steps towards health and have a healthy mindset which is most important.

Here are a few tips that have helped me tremendously since I became a mom almost 13 years ago.

1. MINDSET ~ This is the first and most important step you must take to accomplish anything in life. Remind yourself that you have birthed children and your body may never be what it was before that. Your stomach may not ever be completely flat and your boobs will never be as perky. Sorry but it’s the truth and we all know it. But, what your body is able to do is amazing and you birthed your child which is greater than looking skinny. Embrace your body and remind yourself you are incredible!

2. SET A GOAL ~ Set a realistic goal and create your plan to get there. When we set HUGE goals at first it can be overwhelming and seem discouraging. Start small and everything will fall into place.

3. EAT CLEAN (KINDA) ~ You absolutely DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT have to eat like a fitness model to get healthy! Don’t let anyone tell you that all you can eat is Chicken, Rice and Broccoli. Trust me, You will burn out so incredibly fast with this mentality! I’ve been there! Try to stick to whole foods, prep some meals to help save time, and if you want a dang piece of cake at a birthday party, then eat the cake! Make sure you have some healthy choices at home so you aren’t tempted to go on a crazy binge eating session.

4. DO SOMETHING YOU LOVE ~ Whether it’s dancing, running, lifting weights, etc. just get in there and do whatever you can. I know for myself, if I enjoy doing it, then I am more likely to look forward to it. If you find yourself dreading it, then switch it up!

5. CUTE WORKOUT CLOTHES ~ I know that when I buy a new pair of leggings or a new tank top, I  feel better and can’t wait to workout. It’s a strange motivation but it does work! Some of my favorites are Victoria’s Secret, Fabletics,  and Lululemon.

These are just a few tips I have for staying fit through motherhood, I would love to hear how you guys do it! Being healthy is so important especially when you’re a Momma! You have kiddos who are looking up to you and that you need to take care of!

Hope you all have a great week!

 

Tough Love

Whew you guys!!! This morning was rough! Being a parent is hard sometimes!

Do you ever feel like you are doing something wrong? Like no matter what you do, your child is never happy and it’s never enough?

This morning was one of those mornings! I will spare you the details but it was a complete meltdown moment for both my child and myself.

I am one of those moms that wants to be friends with my kids, and before someone tells me “You aren’t supposed to be their friend”, let me stop you there. I am best friends with my Mother and wouldn’t have it any other way. I can talk to her about anything. I am not scared to tell her things, we have an honest relationship and I believe it’s because of how I was raised. Her friend.

Now, here is where the hard part comes in.

Those times where you can’t just be their friend. Those times where you are so mad, you can’t even think. Those times where they have every comeback in the world and you are left speechless and want to scream into a pillow. Ha this was my life today. BUUUT, how did I handle things?

I remained calm and explained to him that myself nor his dad are raising our kids to be disrespectful and hateful humans. He will be grounded from the things he loves. Spanking does not work for me. I do NOT do it especially in a moment of anger. I refuse. Some may call that weak, but I call it being able to control myself and keeping my own emotions in check.

What kind of example am I setting by telling my son he needs to control his temper tantrums, yet I don’t abide by my own standards?

My children will learn the hard way not by getting spankings but real punishments. No Cellphones, Door off the hinges, chores, no friends houses, etc…He may not be speaking to me at the moment but he knows how much I love him and he will respect me more.

Moral of the story, Not all of us have our shit together. Life isn’t rainbows and butterflies all the time. We all struggle with parenting and learning how to figure out what works with one kid and may not with the other.

I would like to know, what are some things you have struggled with and what did you do to correct your children??

Thanks for letting me vent,
Tiff